All children exhibit and experience behavioural issues and difficulties at times, in fact all of us do! It can be difficult to determine what’s going on and whether it’s a passing phase. In general, if your child’s behaviour is interfering with any of the following, it’s probably a good idea to seek some assistance:
- Ability to actively participate in learning activities
- Progression of your child’s natural stage of development
- Key relationships with other family members
- Social relationships outside of family (school, extra-curricular activities)
- Your child’s overall sense of happiness and engagement with day to day life
- Outbursts where your child’s response is disproportionate to the event or situation
- Persistent issues arising where your child is becoming entrenched in an undesirable behaviour
- Your child’s overall wellbeing
Parenting Support and Strategies
In addition to me working with your child, it can often be helpful (where necessary) to work with and alongside parents/caregivers. Depending on your child’s needs and issues, some modifications to parenting styles and strategies can assist the child in progressing faster and/or ensure any changes achieved during sessions are sustainable for the child and wider family. This approach also ensures that outside of their sessions, there is appropriate support, guidance and coaching for the child. Naturally, this usually leads to stronger and deeper relationships along with shared understanding with your child.
Engaging your child in daily Mental Fitness Exercises can also help everyone to have a more positive day.
Some children can display ongoing anger, defiance, a negative outlook or mindset, seem overly miserable and have frequence outbursts or tantrums (often disproportionate to the circumstances).
Anxiety in children can take on many forms and can be experienced differently for each child. Most commonly those struggling with anxiety can be overly clingy, have difficulty with change/transitions, have difficulty with new people/situations or activities, can be withdrawn, overly nervous, worried or fearful about things and may have digestive issues.
While there’s no such thing as a traditional family these days, many children struggle with different aspects of their parents separating. Whether its the separation itself, the change in family dynamics afterwards, moving between parents and parents finding new partners, these are difficult aspects for children to navigate. Based on their own life experiences and the roles they play within their family both before and after often determines how they cope through this time.
Bullying takes on many forms and children can be both victims and perpetrators at times. Bullying can take place out in the open or more commonly these days, through online mediums which can be difficult to identify and address.
Whether its the loss of a loved one or parental separation, children grieve in different ways and often in stages. They may seem okay one day and not the next – there’s no ‘right’ way to grieve. When a child becomes stuck in the grief cycle and the separation or loss is beginning to affect other aspects of their life, they may require some additional support to assist them in moving through the natural grief cycle.
Self-harm behaviours can be alarming for parents and can leave everyone involved feeling disconnected from one another. Self harm can take many forms and any recurrent incidences should be followed up to determine what’s going on for the child/teen that is causing this coping strategy to be adopted.
Some children struggle with their social relationships, particularly but not limited to those that are peer:peer. Social relationships and friendships are important to each of us so if you notice your child has difficult either making friends or keeping them, its a good idea to seek support and determine what’s going on for the child that creates this.
Trauma & Abuse
Trauma takes on many forms; whether its a one-off event that a child has had difficulty with or ongoing trauma. Trauma can occur on its own or it may be linked to abuse of some kind. Either way, trauma and abuse can quickly become entangled in a child’s day to day life if left unaddressed and/or unacknowledged and cause the child to present with a multitude of behavioural issues.